Sharing is Loving

"Marriage is forever" that's the old saying. The new most appropriate word for marriage in our ultra modern time is "Happy Marriage ends in a costly divorce." Couples divorce so easily that even when attending marriage ceremony a remark such as "Oh! They are so happy...how long will they last?"Can be heard very often and is a no wonder. The reason why the number of divorce is rising and why people are so eager to end their Holy union is worth pondering.

Married but disinterested in sex and it's been a long time you people had an intimate time. Yeah, you may have your reasons why you are not interested in sex however, do you ever consider how your spouse is taking it. She loves and adores you; she is faithful and committed and is a great mother to your baby. When things are perfectly normal you turned everything topsy-turvy and that brings a gap in your relationship, sowing the seed for divorce.

Just as we have distinct personality even our sexual appetite are not the same. Some may have more while others may have no sexual appetite or desire at all. Well, it is perfectly alright if you are single and not want to have sex, your local priest will even see a halo round your head! However, as you are married now it is not only about you, your wants or needs but of your spouse needs that you must consider. It can never be your way alone because marriage is sharing and compromise. You are no longer alone and are not as free to do things as you want so be more considerate.

Even if you are not hungry you still need to take food and if you are having appetite problem you take vitamins to enhance your appetite. Likewise, even if you are not interested in having sex you cannot let your spouse suffer at your expense as his or her sexual appetite is not the same as yours and is very much active. Therefore, if there is any problem regarding sex or any other problem or disease it is best you talk it out to your partner so that things will not go out of hand. Sharing your problem with her also makes your relationship special as your partner will have a feeling that you trust him/her and this will further enhance your relationship making the bond stronger.

Hiding your problem and sicknesses will just widen the gap in your relationship. The trust which your partner had in you will be gone and will be replaced by anger and insecurity. Inspite of loving her if you keep secrets away from her it can have adverse affect. The first thing what she might think is that of self-pity, she will think that she is not good enough for you in bed which will be followed by the feeling of insecurity and it will turn into anger. Then, in her state of vulnerability she will be on the look out for someone who cares for her and infidelity will follow. You will come to know about it and think that she is a heartless creature who doesn't even care for your sentiments while the whole time you were to blame for. At the end, things can never be the same again and it will be the end of your marriage.

Every problem has a solution and therefore, even your problem is not without a solution and your marriage need not break. So, whatever be the reason that makes you not interested in sex any more share it with your wife, together, you can help each other by seeking medical help as well as counseling and learn to respect each others feeling. Otherwise your silent abstinence will make your spouse insecure giving her all kind of thoughts and at the end the outcome may not be very pleasant.

Therefore, before things go out of hand and while you still got time do not hide your sickness. Your wife will understand enough to help you and will be happier than being kept in the dark. Further, if medicine like Cialis are there why let them be left unused when you needed them so badly. Seek medical help consult a doctor and let all the worries of your marriage rest here in peace.